today is lady porn day!
Happy Lady Porn Day!
Rabbit Write is curating this “day about exploring porn and masturbation.” How can I not be down with that? To celebrate, I’m sharing a few snapshots of my experiences with porn over the years and then recommending some of my fave lady porn links.
Middle school:
The garage door shuts, the car leaves the driveway. Home alone at last. Despite my liberal sex education since I was six years old, I figured my parents wouldn’t appreciate me openly masturbating in the den. Our desktop screen faced the hallway sans door, a respectable tactic. I search for a word I’ve been hearing a lot about lately - “porn”. The images of women that fill my screen are quite different from the familiar diagrams and my own body. Fleshy, shiny, silky…oh look, a penis! Next search - “penis porn”. I rest my hand on the zipper to my jeans and press down. Let the exploration begin.
Grade ten:
My first ‘real’ boyfriend (i.e. more than kisses) and I are hanging out in his living room with a bunch of his friends. We’re all watching a DVD featuring A Perfect Circle. When it ends, Anthony brings up porn as a topic of conversation. I’m the only girl. I nonchalantly mention that yeah, I watch porn. They all gawk. I’m immediately tackled with questions:
“What kind of porn do you watch!?”
“I don’t know, whatever kind I can find. I like trying to find women who look like me so I can imagine myself as them.”“How often do you watch it?”
“Ehh…whenever I get a chance on the computer. Maybe every week or two?”“Do other girls watch porn?”
“Of course! Well, wait. Actually…I don’t know.”
Summer before university:
I was given my dad’s old laptop as my graduation present. I’m re-organizing folders when it dawns on me. I can watch porn whenever I want! I pop in my headphones and spend the next several hours masturbating to the endless videos queuing on my screen. At some point that night, I stumble upon what has since become my hands down (haha, get it?) favourite way to get off. Erotic writing. People actually write blogs about their sex lives? Their sexual fantasies? I had read romance novels before but couldn’t get past the impossibly cheesy imagery the author tried to thrust in your head. It wasn’t real. What I had found was real. I’ve been swept up by sex blogs ever since.
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Hooray for ladies loving porn! To cap it off, here are some of my favourites:
- Tap That Guy - Watch out imagination. Mine goes wild as I insert myself in these images. I particularly love how these are real men. If you’re into voyeurism, check it out.
- Art or Porn - I love photography. And as Alle Malice noted, “Naked dudes love chatroulette; naked girls love tumblr.” I agree, though I’ll admit I also have a soft spot for chatroulette. And of course craigslist.
- Fantasti.cc - Ya know, sometimes I’m just in the mood for amateur sex. Ever since those middle school days, raw footage style tends to work for me. I don’t want any fade transitions or stupid overaching narrative. I want straight-up fucking.
- My blogroll - These are the blogs I feed and tumblrs I follow to get my fix. Like I said before, a solid story will have me touching myself in no time.